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My Advice on “Coming Out” as an Atheist

I’ve been seeing a lot of discussion of late, people talking about how to “come out” as an atheist, how to announce that they no longer believe so that everyone they know is aware that they no longer believe.  And I have one word for all of these people, just one.  Here it is.


Just don’t.  Don’t make a big deal of it.  Don’t announce it.  Don’t sit down every single person in your life and let them know.  Just don’t bother.  Just stop being religious.  Move on with your life.  Stop going to church.  Stop reading whatever holy book you used to believe in.  Stop doing the things that you now think are silly.  Don’t tell people about it unless they ask, and if they do, don’t act like it’s a big deal.  Say you no longer believe in religion X.  Don’t make a big deal about it.  Just be yourself.

The reason I say that is because, to be honest, what you believe is really none of anyone’s business.  You don’t have to justify your non-belief to anyone.  What goes on in your head is your business, not theirs. Sitting people down and having a heart-to-heart discussion is more like asking permission.  You have no need for their permission.  You get to be your own person whether they like it or not.  And you have to be prepared for people to run away, this is something the religious often do because they simply cannot handle the fact that anyone wouldn’t fall for their ridiculous religious lunacy.  But assuming you came to your non-belief rationally, you have to accept the potential consequences as well.  Let them go.  They weren’t worth being around anyhow.

And of course, I’d say the same for gay people.  If you’re gay, be gay.  Be yourself.  You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.  They have no control.  They get to decide how they react, but they don’t get to try to change you.  Stand up for yourself and stop pretending that anyone else gets any say in your life. Get yourself a boyfriend or a girlfriend and have a good life.  Stop worrying what anyone else says.

This is yet another place where religion, primarily, causes problems in society.  There is nothing wrong with being gay or being an atheist, but the religiously delusional insist that there is, based on their beliefs in an imaginary friend and an ancient book of mythology.  Therefore, they’re often willing to throw really good people out of their lives because they don’t share the same irrational delusion.  It really doesn’t matter who they are, friends, family members, anyone who is willing to throw you in the trash over irrationality isn’t someone you need in your life in the first place.  Let them go.  It’s their problem not yours.  Make new friends who aren’t assholes.  Develop new relationships with decent people.  Let them suffer.  It’s their fault, not yours.  Stop pretending that you have to appeal to their sensibilities and just appeal to your own.  They’re the ones that lose, not you.

Wouldn’t it be nice if everyone acted that way?  It would end a ton of drama and that’s a good thing.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.30

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Sometimes It’s Personal

Marco Rubio thinks God is more important than the job he wants, Saudi Arabia desecrates corpses, a girl joins ISIS and dies and the Planned Parenthood shooting and Christian hypocrisy. Then we talk about Turkey and Russia and why religion ruins everything.  Now get over there and listen already!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.29

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Se Juis Paris

A long show this week, we look at intolerant Christians in Texas, 1500 Mormons walking away from their church, a Utah judge tries to deny a lesbian couple their foster child and college safe spaces and why they’re a bad idea.  Then we talk about the terrorist attacks in Paris and whether the world is really ready to deal with ISIS.  It’s a belated episode, get over there and listen!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.28

Bitchspot Report New Icon 500x276Just a bunch of craziness, conspiracy theorists galore, speaking in tongues, Ben Carson making a little sense, Satanic rituals at Planned Parenthood, losing your religion on the football field and creationists running education in Maine.

This week, I’m trying minimal editing, this is what the podcast really sounds like when we record, please let us know what you think!

Go here to listen now!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.27

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The More Things Change…

A priest defends pedophila on TV and pisses off the Vatican, Obama “verbally rapes” a woman by telling the truth, an 8th grade boy is suspended for supporting the military, 15 racist asshats carrying Confederate Flags invade a boy’s birthday party, plus we talk about the speed society has changed, thanks to the Internet, and if we should expect things to keep moving that fast.  Click here to listen now!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.26

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Too Crazy For The Crazies!

We finally get it right, talking about crazy fundamentalist Christian Theodore Shoebat, no more chemotherapy for an Amish girl, anti-Muslim rallies are making Muslims nervous, a woman finds a slave figure in her son’s birthday present and freaks, plus the military doesn’t want to give money to for-profit universities.  So get out there and listen already!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.25

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There’s some serious stuff going on this week as we look at the end of the world.  Again.  Pastor James Manning goes completely insane.  The Pope defends heterosexual marriage after a Polish priest comes out as gay.  We revisit the Satanic Panic of the 1980s and find that it’s still going on today.  A lady is sweat-shamed at a Starbucks and it’s as stupid as it sounds. McGraw-Hill agrees to change a school textbook after a mother complains, and why this might not always be the right thing to do.  Then we talk about why people follow leaders who make them look really, really bad.  All this and more on this week’s show!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.23

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In a slightly shorter show, we go heavy on Islam with stories about anti-Muslim firearms, the pagan takeover of Catholicism, Ben Carson entirely misunderstanding our secular government, a Muslim boy gets arrested for bringing a clock to school, plus we look at why so many liberal atheists defend Islam.  Time’s a wastin’, go listen!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.22

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A Ukrainian Bishop gets away with breaking the law, a woman gets mad at summer at Auschwitz, an author gets banned in New Zealand, a teenager is charged with expoloiting himself, the GOP is at it again with Iran and we talk about overparenting and how it ruins our children’s lives.  Now march yourself right over and get listening.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.21

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The Aliens Are Coming!

It’s a crap sandwich as we talk about aliens invading from another dimension, both the Qur’an and the Bible not being what they seem, another Republican lawmaker couple are caught in a car together, India sells sand to the Arabs and Kim Davis and her cries of Christian persecution.  Grab a fork and partake in this week’s episode of The Bitchspot Report Podcast.

I Hate Leftist Religion Coddlers

Stop Being StupidIf there’s one thing that pisses me off, more than all of the absurd religious apologists, more than all of the demonstrable harm that religion does, it’s the non-religious, almost entirely-leftist assholes who don’t want anyone to dare criticize the religious because it just might hurt their feelings.

Fuck those people.

These are the same people, almost always atheists, who scream how nobody can ever criticize the beliefs of Muslims because somehow, it’s racist.  I debunked that one before, but it still bugs me.  So anyhow, this self-described liberal atheist assrag, well, maybe not the last word, but the rest, starts whining that all of us evil atheists ought to just stop saying anything bad about religion because religion makes people feel good and therefore, should be beyond criticism.

And so begins the liberal shuffle, where he trots out a whole host of really idiotic claims that are easily debunked but he just doesn’t care, because… feelings.  Oh, religion doesn’t hurt anyone!  Sure, tell that to all of the dead kids whose parents chose to pray rather than seek credible medical treatment.  Tell that to all of the people blown up by Muslim suicide bombers and to the people thrown off rooftops because they were gay.  Tell that to all of the kids molested by Catholic priests while the church desperately tries to avoid any responsibility for their crimes, or for turning over known pedophiles to authorities, or for paying off court-mandated legal settlements.  Tell that to gays who have, until very recently, been denied legal equality on religious grounds.  Tell that to the Jews, who were experimented on and murdered by the Nazis for religious reasons.  Tell that to the followers of Jim Jones, the Order of the Solar Temple, Heaven’s Gate, the Branch Davidians, the Movement for the Restoration of the Ten Commandments of God and many more.  Tell all of these people that religion doesn’t hurt anyone.  Heck, the Religious Horror Show is a weekly reminder just how ridiculous this statement actually is.

Then he says that the religious books don’t hurt anyone.  I guess he’s never read one.  The Bible and Qu’ran openly advocate slavery, murder, rape, genocide and a whole host of other horrors.  However, as he points out, most people pay no attention to those things, but it isn’t  because they have somehow been thrown out of the official doctrine, its only because modern secular society has made it unacceptable to do so.  It wasn’t that long ago that religion was the biggest supporter of slavery, racism, sexism and all manner of other hatred that simply cannot be justified any other way.  All of this comes straight from the holy books which are the only real support for these religious traditions.

Then he leaps to the last bastion of the pathetic, the idea that because we can’t stop them from believing, we shouldn’t mention it at all.  After all, what are we going to do, go out and genocide the religious worldwide?  Funny how that last part is always a major leap of irrationality among the lefty libs.  It’s a strawman and a ridiculous one at that, but logic, it isn’t part of their regimen, I’m afraid.  Of course we’re not going to kill them.  That’s the religious shtick, one that has  been practiced throughout history by believers around the world.  No, we freethinkers are happy just pointing out the utter and pathetic failures of religious belief and doctrine and it’s working quite well.  People are flooding out of the churches at an ever-increasing rate as education and science increase their presence in the modern world.  In another couple of decades, the religious should be a minority in society and in a century or two, it should be nearly gone entirely and thank goodness for that.  We don’t have to throw the religious into the ovens, that’s something that the religious are known for doing.

So please, tell me what it is about the left that makes them pull this obnoxious shit?  I know it’s emotional overload, they only care how things feel, not if they make sense, which kind of explains the majority of liberal talking points and political ideologies.  You people need to stop being so hyper-emotional and grow the fuck up and learn to think more than you feel. It’s no wonder you’ve screwed this planet up so badly, maybe moreso than the religions that you’re desperate to protect.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.20

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This week, Ted Cruz wants pastors to break the law, ISIS destroys Palmyra temple, professors want to control speech on campus, India orders two women raped, plus we talk about birthright citizenship. If it wasn’t so bizarre, it would make you cry, come join us for the show.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.19

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A woman prays behind the wheel, causing grevious harm to a grandmother, Michelle Bachmann celebrates the end of the world, the Duggars want back on TV to counsel sexually abused teens, more religious states are accepting the superiority of secular society and we talk about the stupid names that parents give their kids and why they shouldn’t.

So give it a shot, won’t you?

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.18

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Lots of stupid as a judge orders a couple to get married and write Bible verses or go to jail, 5 women in India are beaten to death as witches, Wal-Mart’s new minimum wage is upsetting workers, as we predicted, two state representatives are having an affair, but they’d rather pretend he was sleeping with a gay prostitute.  Then we look at the Sovereign Citizen movement and just how crazy these people really are.  Get your aspirin ready, you’re going to need it.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.17

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Jewish Cooties!

Ultra-Orthodox Jews are afraid of women, gay-hating Jewish stabber returns to stab again, the secrets of the Reconstructionist Right, a three-year old terrorist and political donors come from a small pool.  Plus, Iran isn’t a monster, stop pretending they are.  So what are you still doing here, go listen!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.16

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Is He In You?

In a longer than usual show, we look at pharmacists who are no longer allowed to deny medications on religious grounds, a Nepalese boy who is murdered by Hindus for magical reasons, the Mayor of Hawkins, Texas is an idiot and doesn’t understand the separation of church and state and Iran is helping fund the fight against ISIS in Iraq and we’re being dicks about it.  Then we have a long talk about increasing the minimum wage and why it’s not such a good idea.  Get him in you and check it out!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.15

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Can You Trump That?

A foodie show, we look at a South African preacher who makes his followers eat live snakes, then crazy theists insist Pepsi is made of dead fetuses, an Australian naturopath convinces a mother to almost kill her baby and the EEOC decides that the 1964 Civil Rights Act protects LBGTQ from discrimination. Finally, we talk about Donald Trump and his insanity and what it means for the GOP.

Surf, do not run to the podcast!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.14

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Should Auld Stupidity Be Forgot?

Tom DeLay and his tinfoil hat, the truth about the Oregon baker case, evangelicals want to stuff political offices with preachers and the freedom to thread eyebrows.  Then we revisit a bunch of stories that we kept saying we’d revisit and hadn’t.

Yes, the world is a crazy place, listen to us simplify it.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.13

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Oy Vey! It’s Mass Suicide Time!

An orthodox Jewish group hires Mexican migrant workers to hold signs at a gay pride parade, the religious head for the hills to avoid God’s wrath, a liberal professor tells white people to commit mass suicide over slavery and a teacher is fired while teaching about free speech for exercising his free speech.  Then we look at the Supreme Court decision over gerrymandering and the right of American voters to have control over their representatives.

We can’t make this stuff up!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.12

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Ding! Dong! The Witch is Dead!

As we celebrate national gay marriage, we pause long enough to talk about a crazy evangelist who wants to send Bibles to starving Iraqi refugees, a teacher who disciplined a second grader for being an atheist, ridiculous southerners standing up for the Confederate Flag and the potential fallout from Greece’s #grexit.  Then we look at the Supreme Court decision and the idiots who pretend they’re not affected.
So what are you waiting for?  Go listen!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.11

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An unplanned south-centric episode, this week we look at a Texas pastor willing to be burned to oppose gay marriage, Louisiana is allowing Bibles in the classroom to oppose evolution, the Confederate Flag is finally getting the boot and it’s about damn time, plus the Supreme Court rules on Americans born in Jerusalem and what they can put on their passports.  Then we example France’s “right to be forgotten” and how Google should tell them where to shove it.  Lots of craziness this week, stay tuned.

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.10

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Jesus Says Give Me Your Wallet!

After missing a week, we come back with another 90 minutes of religious and political absurdity sure to make any rational person shake their heads.  This week, gays make Christians feel bad.  The Catholic Church is finally being held criminally liable for pedophile priests.  The Supreme Court rules in an online threat case.  A family is charged with disturbing the peace and brings up free speech concerns.  Plus, are the religious really more charitable when their religion uses intimidation and threats to extort money from them?  All this and more on this new episode!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.9

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Drive Out the Gay Demons

This week, we look at the fallout from the Irish gay marriage vote, especially those who still oppose it.  Mike Huckabee proves he has no place anywhere near the White House.  The Supreme Court agrees to take on redistricting and what it might mean. Lobster tails and injustice, oh my.  Then we talk about the end of portions of the Patriot Act and whether this is a good idea.
So what are you doing gawking?  Go listen!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.8

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Zombie Hitler!

This week, the guys, with special guest Christian Kemp from the IAmAnAtheist blog, take on abortion stupidity in Ohio, racist nonsense from Pastor Manning, go after the Duggars and the Quiverful movement, look at a Hitler fan in South Africa and revisit the re-opening of relations with Cuba.  Then we take some time to talk about secularism and the misrepresentation and outright lies of the religious.
Go listen.  Come on, you know you want to!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.7

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Think Stupid, Think Subway

This week, idiot of the week Sierra McCurdy shows why you shouldn’t  be a moron in your work shirt, we take a look at the latest Pew survey on religion that shows a continual decline in religiosity in America, dinosaur faces on chickens, Texas trying to force women to bear dead fetuses and the recent election in England and what this spells for free speech.  Hate to say we told you so but we told you so.
And now we’re telling you to go listen to the show!

The Bitchspot Report Podcast #2.6

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Check Your Religious Privilege

This week, churches need to pick better representatives, Rick Wiles peeks at Obama in the bathroom, an African Evangelical church leader doesn’t understand human reproduction, liberals hate good parents so knock it off and another atheist blogger is murdered in Bangladesh. Then we go on to look at the liberal myth of privilege and wonder how ridiculous these people can actually be.
Go find out on this week’s show!