Lack of Basic Responsibility, Politeness and Respect

keep-calm-and-take-the-responsibilityOkay, I’m going to go on a rant here and I’m not really mad at anyone in particular, I’m just sick and fucking tired of the lack of responsibility and politeness some people and groups have, where they really don’t give a damn about anyone or anything and it fucking shows.

Last week, The Atheist Experience had some technical difficulties and didn’t have a show.  From what I’m given to understand, their producer didn’t show up and instead, they just aired a rerun.  Okay, shit happens, I get that, but when something like this happens, the first thing any responsible person ought to do is make an announcement that something is going on, there will be no show, apologize for it and move on.  It takes a few seconds.  They have plenty of avenues to do it, they can announce it on their blog, their website, Twitter, etc.  They can even go in and post it as a topic in their Ustream chat room.  It isn’t like nobody knows what’s going on, they have hosts, they have a whole bunch of people behind the scenes, they have the fucking president and vice president of the ACA who ought to give a damn about their flagship product, etc.  Nope, nobody did a thing and this is hardly the first time this has happened.

When we’re missing a week on the podcast, I make sure I announce it.  It goes out on Twitter and Tumblr and anyone subscribed to the podcast feed gets an announcement.  It’s basic respect for the people that want to listen to the podcast. I actually give a damn about the people who show up week after week.  It ought to be the minimum activity that should be expected.

So this week, people were talking about not having a show last week on the Ustream chat and even though I rarely ever post anything there, mostly because it’s chock-full of assholes and idiots, I said something about “it would have been nice if anyone had posted there wouldn’t be a show so people who were waiting would know.”  That was it.  Nothing angry, nothing accusatory, nothing insulting, just a suggestion that someone could have done something instead of just leaving hundreds of people who show up just to see the show to their own devices.  But instead of being thanked for the suggestion, instead of saying “that’s a good idea”, I had assholes yelling at me for daring to suggest decent behavior.  Yup, I’m not paying for the show so I have no right to say anything about the behavior of this organization.  Bullshit.

But I guess that being responsible and being accountable and actually giving a shit about anyone but yourself is a thing of the past.  People don’t know how to say please and thank you.  People don’t care if you live or die.  It’s all about them.  It’s all about what makes them happy and anyone else… screw ’em, they just don’t matter.  It’s not just Atheist Experience, it’s everyone. That’s the kind of thing that pisses me off because people seem to be entirely unable to observe the basic social niceties anymore.  People shouldn’t have to be reminded to be polite.  Sure, people make mistakes, but this isn’t about making mistakes and being apologetic about them, this is about not caring in the first place and when the mistake is pointed out, not giving a shit about it, in fact, not just not giving a shit, but being upset that anyone suggested that you should have done something to begin with.

It’s no wonder this planet is going to hell in a handbasket.  [/rant]

5 thoughts on “Lack of Basic Responsibility, Politeness and Respect

  1. It really is also getting to me more and more the whole responsibility issue. Coming from theists it is bad as they use their imaginary friend as an excuse for bad actions. However, when you are meant to be a rational person (like a lot of atheists claim) it really gets on my nerves. And that is my small rant for the day. I understand exactly what you are saying.
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    1. It would be nice if everyone was rational, I don't know that everyone is "meant" to be, only that they should be. Lots of people are pricks though.

  2. I suspect this has something to do with how our online vs. offline communication and behavior are so different. If I tell someone off in the real world (i.e., offline), I have to deal with them and their reaction. Even though I can walk away from them, they might follow me and I might see them again. But online, I can just unfollow, unfriend, block, etc. and never encounter them again. People do not feel as responsible for what they do and say online.

    One fascinating example of this I have noticed recently concerns the manner in which some of today's college students interact with professors online and offline. Some of the same students who are polite and respectful during offline interactions will say unbelievably rude and disrespectful things in their emails. It is really puzzling because I end up with a written record of what they've said in the form of the email. It is as if they are so used to not having any responsibility for what they do or say online that they don't stop to think about this.

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    1. I think you're right that a lot of this starts online, but there are plenty of people, especially young people who have essentially been raised online, who act that way offline too. They are just rude, obnoxious assholes without the slightest clue of the most basic social graces, not because they can't but because they just don't care. They can't be bothered. It doesn't matter to them. They're all entirely self-centered, it's all about them and nobody else is worth caring about. It's just sad.

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