I recently had a guy run up to me at work, proud of his new tattoo and wanted to know my opinion. Okay, I’ve said this before, I don’t like tattoos. At all. I don’t think they look good on anyone and I find them ridiculous and childish and the current desire for people to cover their skin in permanent ink is idiotic, at least in my opinion. So I told the guy as much, very nicely, that I wasn’t the one to come to for an opinion on his tattoo and he got offended that I didn’t gush all over him and tell him how cool it was.
What he was seeking wasn’t really an opinion but validation. He wanted to be made to feel good about something and went to someone who doesn’t think it’s a good thing. Oh sure, he can do whatever he wants to his body, it’s his right, but I don’t have to tell him it was a good thing or that I like it. Company policy states that no visible tattoos are to be showing and I have a couple of people who have to suffer with long-sleeve shirts all year long because they decided to tat themselves up. I don’t care about that, I care if they can do their jobs and, by and large, they are a great group of people. But you know, if you come and ask me what I think about something, I’m going to tell you. It might be diplomatically, but I’m going to tell you. If you don’t want to know, don’t ask.
We live in a society where people want validation for their actions and they get genuinely upset when someone tells them that they don’t think they did the right thing. Now I didn’t tell this guy that I thought he was stupid or immature or anything else because he got a tattoo… okay, to be fair, *ANOTHER* tattoo. I just said I wasn’t the one to ask about such things. He got upset, momentarily at least, because I didn’t immediately gratify his desire to be accepted and admired for his actions. He got over it pretty quickly, I’m sure he sought out other tattoo-enthusiasts in the office and they made him feel better, but it strikes me as pretty silly that things worked out like that in the first place. People need to stop asking for opinions when what they really want is approval. They need to realize that asking someone’s honest impression probably won’t get them to lie to you. You either want honesty or you do not. If you want honesty, getting offended at that honesty seems rather absurd.
But I guess that’s what happens when the liberals are in charge.