There’s a weekend host on a local radio talk show that I really hate, she’s extremely annoying and frankly, a little too liberal to be on the conservative station she’s on. She tends to say some incredibly stupid things too. A couple of days ago, she was talking about the absurdity of men thinking that a woman who is dressed seductively or who is drinking heavily is somehow consenting to have sex with them and I absolutely agree with her as far as that goes. However, she doesn’t turn it around and expect that a woman ought to take responsibility for her dress, for her actions or for her behavior. That, I think, is a problem. Unfortunately, it’s not an uncommon problem.
I’ll be the first one to say that there is nothing that a woman can do that makes her “deserve” being raped, molested or anything else, any more than there is anything any human being can do to “deserve” being robbed, abused or murdered. That said though, there are certainly things that an individual can do that makes it more likely that something will happen to them. In the case of rape, there are many things that the woman should not do, and situations in which she should not do them, simply because it is irresponsible to do them.
It’s no different than walking around in a bad neighborhood at night with money hanging out of your pockets. No, you don’t “deserve” to be mugged or stabbed or shot, but the actions you are taking greatly increase the possibility that you will be.
This is something that I’ve talked about at length before and unfortunately, probably will have to again. Having the right to do something doesn’t free one from the responsibility for the consequences that may come from it. That doesn’t mean that you’re the only one responsible, it doesn’t mean that you are the sole cause of the consequences, but you must share in the blame to a certain degree.
You want an example? There are always stories in the news about some girl who went to a party, got drunk and out of control, then she got raped. Absolutely and without question, you go after the guys who raped her, that’s a given, but why does nobody ever ask the question, would this have happened if she hadn’t been there drunk off her ass? When do we start saying “while you shouldn’t have been raped, your actions ultimately helped the situation along to it’s unfortunate conclusions”? Feminists refuse to ask these questions and the second anyone brings it up, they start flinging around words like “misogynist” and “rape-enabler”. The one thing they never acknowledge, mostly because of their liberal roots, is that every party has some measure of this little thing we call personal responsibility for being in the situation in which they find themselves.
One of the reasons we practice personal responsibility is because it helps keep us out of danger. It’s why we teach kids to look both ways before running out into the street, we don’t tell them to just rush out there without looking and if they’re hit by a car, they’re a victim. We are all responsible for taking a certain measure of care and thinking of the potential ramifications of our actions. It’s not a guarantee of safety by any means but it certainly does increase our chances. If a woman goes out hitchhiking and gets into a stranger’s car and something bad happens to her, she really has no case for screaming “it’s not my fault!” Sure it is. It’s also the fault of the person who did something bad to you. But you know, you should have known better.
The same thing is true of dignity and respect. These tend to be very important concepts to a lot of liberals, but they don’t seem to understand how they work. I’m here to help. Respect is something that you earn. Nobody has to respect you if you don’t act in a respectful manner and earn it. Liberals often act like because a woman (or a man, I’m not being sexist) has the ability to do a thing, that everyone owes it to them to ride them around on their shoulders and hold a parade celebrating their freedom. Nothing could be further from the truth. You may very well have the ability to do whatever it is that you want to do, but along with the right to do it comes the responsibility to reap the rewards, both positive and negative, of having done it. There are so many liberals who think that their actions are completely free of any and all consequences and it’s just not true.
Take the case a couple of weeks ago of Amina Tyler, the girl in Tunisia who posted topless pictures of herself with feminist messages. In a country like America, that would be fine, but in a highly Muslim country like Tunisia, what the hell was she thinking? Now she’s terrified because she’s getting threats, what the hell did she think was going to happen? How dumb do you have to be to think that you can do something that is not only wholly illegal in the country that you live in, but is also an abomination by local standards, and not realize it’s a bad thing to do? Now I don’t think she should be beaten or killed or anything like that, I don’t support that kind of response, but if she broke the law, she ought to go to jail for what she did. Whether or not you like the law, you are still responsible for your actions. Don’t come crying to me when you do something dumb, then you want to be rescued from having any negative consequences come of your stupidity.
You know, back about 250 years ago, our Founding Fathers did something that was absolutely against the law of the land, they declared independence from British rule. They founded a new nation and they understood the consequences of their actions. They fought a war to become free. They were willing to die to protect the country they had created. So why are so many people today willing to do a thing which they know will have massive negative consequences, yet are totally unwilling to suffer any of the potential negative side effects?
If you’re going to dress provocatively, expect people to react to it. That’s the whole reason for dressing that way! If you don’t want that kind of attention, don’t bring it on yourself. If you’re going to do something illegal, expect to be prosecuted for your actions. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom from consequences. If you’re going to purposely piss off the Muslims, and Tyler can’t claim ignorance for what she did, then expect a lot of negative consequences. I’m not saying you deserve to die, but I’m saying you had a large part in bringing whatever happens on yourself.
If you can’t stand the heat, stop lighting yourself on fire.