Believe it or not, I’m not a cruel guy, even if some people think that I am. To be honest, I don’t really give a damn if people think I’m nice or not, the people I’m not “nice” to are usually the ones who misunderstand why I’m not nice. The fact is, I have the ability to manually separate and compartmentalize emotion from rational reality, I can evaluate events and ideas on a wholly rational, intellectual and critical basis without resorting to blind emotion. It’s a very valuable skill, one I think far too many people lack and ought to develop.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that emotion is useless and should be eliminated, I’m saying that there are a lot of things in the real world that need to be evaluated rationally. They need to be looked at from a critical perspective. They need to be examined with a dispassionate eye and an intellectual bent. In fact, I think that for a whole host of issues, emotion only gets in the way of finding actual, workable, reasonable solutions.
So I wall that part off and don’t use it. And that pisses a lot of people off.
“Oh, don’t you feel…” “Doesn’t this make you feel…” No, purposely not. Unleashed emotions are just not conducive to coming up with good ideas much of the time. In fact, I’d argue that many of the world’s problems are caused by uncontrolled emotionalism. However, just recognizing that tends to piss people off.
Want an example? The world’s population, while perhaps not beyond the ability of the planet to feed, is distributed very poorly. The countries that tend to produce the most offspring are also the countries that are usually least equipped to feed and care for them. That results in not only overpopulation but high mortality. The popular “starving kids in Africa” thing that mothers tell their kids when they don’t clean their plate is a reality. So how do we solve it? It sure isn’t by watching commercials on TV and “adopting” a child for 33 cents a day. But the overly-emotional people will say “these people have a right to breed as fast as they possibly can”. I acknowledge that I can’t stop them, but clearly, the high mortality rate is linked to the high birth rate and, like it or not, actions have consequences. Now I know that these people had no part in being born into a poverty-stricken area of the world and that there is a biological drive to breed, but how can anyone be surprised when nature takes it’s course and people die because of it? Any rational solution there is going to have to be part birth control, part technical improvement, part intellectual improvement and a whole lot of telling the Catholic Church to go fuck itself. That’s a whole group of people running on nothing but emotion. “Oh, we don’t want you to use birth control!” Yeah, I don’t want you to hide pedophile priests, let me know how that’s working out for you. You can’t always get what you want, especially if what you want is stupid.
And that’s another thing, I have no problem calling someone stupid if they’re stupid. I think people ought to call a spade a spade. I’m not really concerned with how you feel about things, but about how you deal with them. I have never understood why so many people get so upset if I reject their beliefs or positions. Do you think that if I reject what you say, that somehow, I reject what you are? I certainly never get upset if someone criticizes something I say, I don’t lash out, I don’t get mad. Why would I? Why would you? It makes no sense to me. If you’re stupid, you’re stupid. If you’re ignorant, you’re ignorant. Ignorance can be cured, just learn something. Stupidity is often another matter, but hey, give it a shot anyhow. If I don’t know something, I go learn about it. I freely admit there are tons of subjects of which I am totally ignorant, only because I haven’t gotten to them yet or I’m just not interested. Am I supposed to be hurt by this? I’m not. Neither should you be.
Besides, I figure adults ought to act like adults. I shouldn’t have to pussyfoot around and treat you with kid gloves, you ought to be able to think for yourself, use reason and deal with reality as it is, not how you wish it was. If you can’t, then you ought to get a metaphorical 2×4 to the head to knock a little sense into you. I am not, nor will I, nor should I be responsible for protecting your precious little feelings from harm, nor you from feelings of inadequacy. Man up. In fact, if we had a planet of people who manned up and took responsibility for their lives, for their ideas and for their beliefs, this planet wouldn’t be in the dire straights it is in today.
So to make it clear, if you think I’m being a dick, you’re probably wrong. Well, for those mental midgets whose beliefs are so utterly absurd and whose positions are completely emotional, and wrong, to boot, maybe I am, but those instances are few and far between. More likely, you’re so used to the kind of mental masturbation that “polite society” uses to avoid even the slightest chance of hurting anyone’s feelings and being treated like an emotional cripple that you can’t take straight, honest and unequivocal talk. I’m not going to bullshit you, I’m not going to play games with you and, believe it or not, I listen to what people say and if they have a good idea, if they can demonstrate their beliefs are factually true, I can even change my mind. Imagine that!
I find it bizarre that there are people out there who hold beliefs for which they have never thought of the rational justifications for. They have faith in things that they plainly don’t understand. They believe things and have never bothered to ask themselves why they believe them, or if they should believe them at all. That’s not the case with me. Pretty much everything I let into my head, I can justify with evidence or well-reasoned logic. I don’t “feel” my way through life, I “think”.
But please, don’t get me wrong, emotions do have a place in a rational mind but I think it’s usually in a secondary role. It’s great to love someone but you shouldn’t make life-altering decisions based solely on an emotion. I don’t care how much in love you are with your significant other, making a commitment to them should be based on a lot of rational criteria that needs to be evaluated critically. Is this relationship going to work out in the long-term? Is this someone that you can actually live with for the rest of your life? The overwhelming majority of relationships I have seen that have fallen apart catastrophically have been because they were too busy smelling the flowers to stop and tick off the boxes and make intellectual decisions.
So now you have a little better insight into my thought process and understand that it’s probably not personal, but that I have high expectations of myself and, like it or not, I’m going to have high expectations of you. If you’re not willing or able to rise to the challenge, expect me to call you on it. That’s life. Don’t have a cow. Just push yourself to be a better, more rational, more intellectual individual. It can only make you stronger and so long as it doesn’t kill you… you know the drill.